As human beings we tend to compare ourselves with others and assume that other people are more sorted, stable or capable than us. From the outside they look that way and we know ourselves from the inside with all our quirks, insecurities and concerns.
These are normal feelings which often become even stronger once we become mothers. As we strive to do the best we can for our children it is so easy to think that we are not doing well enough.
Motherhood is such a wonderful yet intense time where there are so many demands and contradictory feelings many of which are not generally talked about.
There are plenty of discussions out there but a lot of them centre around the practicalities or the differences in approach rather than what it is really like to be a mum, warts and all. However, the reality is that what we have in common as mums is so much more than what separates us.What we have in common is much more than what separates us #motherhood Click To Tweet
The Power of Honesty
I am a firm believer in the power of honesty. On a personal level, when we are honest with ourselves by acknowledging our thoughts and feelings, we allow ourselves to process those things, learn and move on.
Beyond the personal though, there is also being open and honest to other people about our feelings and experiences. When we do that, without even knowing it, we change things. We make the world a better place by acknowledging our humanity and sharing that with others. It helps those listening (or reading) to acknowledge theirs and be okay with it.
This is never more the case than with motherhood. As mothers one of the ways that we can best help other mums is to be honest.The best way to help another mother is to be open and honest about the whole experience of motherhood Click To Tweet
When we share the ups and downs, the highs and lows and all the emotional contradictions we let them know that they are not alone in experiencing mixed feelings and challenging times. We let them know that there is not a right way to be a mother and that not every mother has it sorted. We counteract the unrealistic demands that many of us put ourselves under in an attempt to do the best for our children and we ward off the idea that the highlight reel of peoples lives on social media is all that there is.
By sharing the breadth and depth of motherhood we are doing something very special. We can see relief on another mums face. ‘I thought that was only me’ has been something I have heard so many times. And in those special moments we get something else back, we get to feel that shared connection of motherhood.
To those Changing The Face of Motherhood
There are times when it is not appropriate to share and we all have our own way of doing it. But today I am dedicating this post to all the honest mums out there (many of them bloggers) who are changing the face of motherhood each time they share. Well done and thank you.
Pass this post on to all the mothers you know who are open and honest when they can be, to let them know that they are doing something important.
How do you feel about the ideas in this post? Has someones honesty helped you? Or do you go out of your way to share the experience of Motherhood? I would love to hear from you. I reply to all comments.
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