Quite often as part of family life there is one person who is in charge at home. This is not to say that they are the boss but rather those who juggle all the schedules, tasks and chores in their minds. They are the source of all the information and the coordinator of family life. Usually it is Mums, sometimes it is Dads and sometimes it is shared.
I am our family coordinator. My husband helps a lot. He does chores and pulls his weight when he is at home so I have no complaints on that score. We share out tasks but I am the one who knows all the details of what we need to do, what is coming up and what will need to be done next. I know where everything is, who has what in their lunch boxes, what illnesses have happened already and all the fine details of how to treat new ones.
As the family coordinator most things comes through me. When I was under the weather the other day I began craving a bit of peace and quiet with no demands on me. I found myself getting irritable and annoyed at all the questions and requests coming my way even though my husband was home. In that moment of being ill I realised that I mostly love being the coordinator but at sometimes it can become too much.
There are of course advantages and disadvantages to any role in life. There are times that we can connect with the things we like and others when all we can feel is the things we don’t like. That moment when I wanted to be left alone started me thinking about the pros and cons of being the person who juggles family life. Here is my list.
– It is great to be the centre of everything.
– It is lovely to feel so valued and needed.
– It is nice that we have a significant impact in the direction of family life
– It is rewarding
On the other side though there is the fact that…
– It involves constant thinking and planning which is tiring at times
– It uses up a lot of mind space so it can be difficult to hold onto other information
– Being in demand all the time is tough particularly when we are ill or too tired
– All the complaints come to us
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Let me know who is your Family Coordinator. What are the advantages and disadvantages for you? I would love to hear how it works in your house. I really appreciate all comments and reply to every one.
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