Raising our children is so important to us. We love them and want to do the best we can for them. Yet as mothers we find ourselves contending with so many pressures. Right from pregnancy through to having our babies, we are met with a barrage of information on what to do and even how to feel. It can seem like there is an endless set of requirements to meet in order to be a good mother. If we were to attempt to adhere to all the things that we ‘should’ do with our babies, we would go mad or collapse trying.
Much of the motherhood conversation today is about techniques or the right-way and wrong way to be. There certainly are things that are wrong when raising a child. Babies and children need respect, love and to be recognised for who they are. Anything that demeans or damages them (or us) is not okay. But within the realms of being a good and loving parent there is a whole range of ways of going about it successfully.Raising a child is not about a set of techniques or tasks but is about the relationship we have with our children Click To Tweet
Raising a child is not about a set of techniques or tasks that we complete but is about the relationship we have with them. That is a unique relationship, one that is about both them and us. The problem with much of the advice on which technique is best for our children is that one crucial thing gets left out: us. As mothers we are a huge part of the equation. Who we are and how we feel plays a very significant role in our children’s lives. To be the best mothers we can, we need to accept our own feelings and stop attempting to meet the often impossible demands of modern motherhood. When we truly comprehend that there is no perfect mother, we are freed up to discover our own way to be a mum, taking cues from our child and trusting ourselves.As mothers, we need to accept our feelings and stop attempting to meet the demands of modern motherhood Click To Tweet
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