I recently spoke to a mother who had was finding it difficult after a 3 year break from her career to get back into her old line of work. She felt confused by the knock backs because she knew that, compared to before having a child, she had learned so much of value. She knew more, could manage more. She felt better able to deal with demands and the complexities of working relationships. She explained to me that it would only take her a matter of weeks to get back up to speed and that she had so much more to offer an employer because of her experience of motherhood.
This conversation got me thinking about the learning curve of motherhood. I have written about it at length in my book because it strikes me time and time again as an undervalued and little talked about aspect of raising a child.If nothing else, motherhood is surely a learning curve. Click To Tweet
If nothing else, motherhood is surely a learning curve. We learn about raising a child, about being human and most of all we learn about ourselves through our children.
We learn through the love that we feel for our little ones which allows us to understand them and so ourselves in new ways.
We learn through having demands placed on us and rising to the challenge or, at times, failing to. We discover strengths we didn’t know we had and have our weakness’s highlighted, so once again we can grow.
We learn through being in a constant relationship with our child and determining to be the best parent we can for them.
We learn through the contradictions of raising a child; from the great love that we feel to the great uncertainties that come with it.
(My list could go on. There is a much more in-depth discussion in my post called ‘7 Ways Our Children Teach Us About Ourselves’.)
Whatever we have learnt about ourselves through motherhood it aids us in everything else we do. The skills are not isolated to raising a child. Okay, so looking at the basic skills of changing a baby or breastfeeding or making baby food, well those are purely about raising a child. But these types of skills are not where the bulk of the learning takes place. The majority of the learning is about ourselves and about being in the world. These lessons are useful in any walk of life. Be it in the work place, our creative pursuits or within our relationships.The learning of motherhood is with us for life and it can fuel everything we do. Click To Tweet
The learning of motherhood is with us for life and it can fuel everything we do. The mother I mentioned at the beginning of the post knew, even though others who were hiring didn’t, that she had grown and changed for the better. She knew that her skills were greater than ever before because of raising a child.
What have been the biggest things you have learnt about yourself through being a mother? I would love to hear about your experiences. I reply to every comment as soon as I can.
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