This is a time of year when many of us are made particularly aware of the continual process of letting go of our children. As they grow and develop we have to let them do more and more themselves. Whilst this is always happening there are key times when it becomes increasingly apparent. These are the moments when they reach milestones in their lives, when they do things they have never done before like starting preschool or school or moving up a year.
These milestones make us really look at our children and realise how fast they are changing. They make us think ahead, about how different again they will be in 6 months or one year down the road. The realisation of how quickly time is moving and they are changing is very sobering.
More often than not these changes are a new freedom for our children, but for us as parents there is a loss in watching them step from one phase into another. We know that we will never get back the time that has gone. They have moved on, grown up.As parents we can feel loss as our children step from one stage to another Click To Tweet
And it is not always at those big milestones that we feel this loss. It may be the first time when they go into class without a backward glance or a day when they all of a sudden have grown out of something they have always done. The moments with our children are precious to us, yet we can’t hold on to them. Time passes and our children change and an amazing rate.
Maybe it is so poignant for us not just because we know we will never have that phase of life with them again but also because it makes us notice the passing of time. As parents we have so much to fit in to the hours we have, yet we are aware of time flying by faster than ever.
Adding to that, we also have concerns for our offspring as we let go of them. Will she manage? Will he have anyone to play with? What if something goes wrong? This makes the letting go harder for us.
However, for all the trepidation for our children and loss for ourselves, there is also a great pleasure at their growth.Watching our children grow and discover themselves, is a joy Click To Tweet
They are developing into being their own independent person. It is a joy to see. Watching them gradually expand their capabilities, then go off and navigate the world more and more, making their own decisions and forging their individual path (whilst at times scary) is amazing to watch. We can feel pride and share in their excitement at their discovery of themselves in the world. It is what parenting is all about.
So today my thoughts are with all you lovely parents out there who are witnessing your child expanding and entering a new phase of life. And to any parent who just can’t quite believe the age and achievements or capabilities their children have, wether they are 6 months, 6 or 16 years old.
Are you noticing your child growing up? What have they done that is new recently? Have they entered a new phase of life and how has that felt for you? I would love to know. I reply to all comments.
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