Welcome back to The Self-Worth Challenge. Each week I am addressing a topic related to self-worth and I include a few questions at the end to help you consider how you value yourself and how to strengthen it further.
Although this will only take you five minutes or so, it will set you up to consider this aspect of your self over the coming week.
If you are new to the challenge you might want to start at the beginning and work your way through the series. The very first post is linked here.
Last week in ‘You are Unique’ we explored how everyone is unique yet we can easily limit ourselves. This week we are moving on to naming our strengths.
The Self-Worth Challenge Questions
So working on the basis that you accept that you are unique and bring something very much your own to the world, now it is time to look at what your strengths actually are.
Many people find it helpful to jot down their ideas so that they can look back on them over the coming weeks.
Most importantly really be aware of your first thoughts after each question. Don’t filter out anything for an answer you find more acceptable. There is no right and wrong or good or bad when exploring your inner world.
So here we are not looking for what you want to be or what you are not, but what you already are.
Write a list of your strengths including at least four of them.
So as an example, for me I would put…
- Good listener
Once you have this list there are some points for you to consider.
How easy is it for you to list the things you bring to the world?
If it was difficult or made you uncomfortable then it is worth stopping to explore what is going on.
If we are not used to thinking of ourselves in positive terms this can be really hard to do. It can even feel threatening to suggest that there is good in ourselves. It may feel like we don’t deserve it or we can fear other people disagreeing.
However, everyone has talents and strengths wether we recognise them in ourselves or not. It is just that, if we do allow ourselves to acknowledge our strengths, we can make more use of them.Everyone has talents and strengths wether we recognise them or not Click To Tweet
If you are stuck, begin to think of other people in your life and what they value in you. Maybe you are a good friend, or someone to laugh with or a good listener. Maybe you are quick witted or can always see the funny side of life.
Once you have your list look at it again and consider these questions…
Which are the hardest characteristics for you to acknowledge in yourself?
These are the strengths we have, but find difficult, because it contradicts some other belief about ourselves. They are the ones that we need to work on incorporating as a part of our self image. I will use myself here to explain.
For me listing ‘Intelligent’ was the least comfortable thing for me to put it in my list. I always believed intelligence was about academic prowess. Those who could recall facts and remember details were the clever people and I can’t do that. Over the years I have learnt about the different types of intelligence and understood that I am actually clever. However, it is still the least comfortable thing for me to say about myself because clearly I have not fully accepted the truth of it. I am excited about the prospect of this changing because I know from long experience that when it does it will open up things as yet unknown in my life.
Were there any strengths you thought of but excluded because it felt too uncomfortable?
These are the strengths we have that really challenge us. So once again, using me as an example, going back 20 years ‘intelligence’ just would not have made my list. I would have thought it but then excluded it. However, during that time, having acknowledged the truth, I have utilised that part of myself much more fully than when I denied it.
Even if you found listing your strengths easy this above question is for you too. Finding it easy signifies that you are comfortable with having strengths. But look a little further and push yourself to think about what could be on your list but you excluded or wouldn’t put there? We often put skills outside and beyond ourselves that we actually possess.We often put skills outside and beyond ourselves that we actually possess. Click To Tweet
The next topic on The Self-Worth Challenge: Talk To Yourself
If you are excited by the prospect of this challenge please tell your friends. It is a great thing to do and be able to share with those who care for us.
I would be love to know any aspect of this that you would like to share with me. I am aware that these journeys are often very personal, so if you would rather not it would still be great to know you are following along. I will respond to all comments.
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