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Milestones-Letting go of our children

~ Kirsten Toyne ~ 78 Comments

lBUgcP1441883425This is a time of year when many of us are made particularly aware of the continual process of letting go of our children. As they grow and develop we have to let them do more and more themselves. Whilst this is always happening there are key times when it becomes increasingly apparent. These are the moments when they reach milestones in their lives, when they do things they have never done before like starting preschool or school or moving up a year. Continue reading →

After the birth of baby number two – The biggest surprise

~ Kirsten Toyne ~ 39 Comments

childno2gainsandlossesI was nervous having my second baby. I remembered all too well the challenges of a newborn and couldn’t work out how I would do it again, but this time with a toddler in the mix.

Certain things seemed incomprehensible, like how manage the broken nights without naps during the day or even how to deal with putting a trolley back at the supermarket with a baby and a wandering toddler. I have no idea why the later of these two concerned me so much at the time because it was never really a problem, but that was just one of a few things that I could not imagine how I would manage with child number two. Continue reading →

The Natural Losses of Motherhood

~ Kirsten Toyne ~ 30 Comments

hHeLlR1433446188When we become mothers we gain so much but we lose so much too. There are many losses and here I am not talking about some awful events but rather the natural process of being a mum to ever changing children.

The obvious gains and losses are that we have the addition of our new children but we lose the life we had before. We also learn so much but we have to forgo many of the freedoms of being independent and child free. There is, however, more to it than that. Continue reading →