Raising a child is an amazing thing to do, yet it is so easy to undervalue it at times.
As parents we know how important a role it is. We love our children so much and want the very best for them. But for many of us there can be those times when we lose touch with this fact. There are moments when the competing pressures of life get on top of us, maybe we are not achieving as much as we would like (or think we should) in the other realms of our lives because we are busy raising our children. Or we feel so stuck in the never ending tasks of family life that it feels we are not accomplishing much at all. It is these times that it is worth reminding ourselves how important being a parent is. Continue reading
The early days of having our first baby is an intense time. As a new mum we are experiencing an all new state of affairs. We have our babies to care for. Our bodies are recovering from childbirth. We have the twenty-four hour world of feeding and changing to adjust to and the all-new emotions that come with caring for an infant. Continue reading
I love straight forward abstract ideas. They have a great way of cutting through all the noise of life and condensing things to something clear and easy to remember.
There is one idea that came to me quite a while ago that I wish I had understood when I was a new mum with my first baby. It is this.
Motherhood is an art not a science.
Let me explain how it would have helped. Continue reading
Previously I have written about letting go of our children as they reach those milestones in their life. Whilst I did, it struck me that there is another aspect to letting go and it is one that I am in the full swing of at the moment. It is the gradual process of giving our children more and more freedom as they become increasingly capable individuals. Continue reading
Quite often as part of family life there is one person who is in charge at home. This is not to say that they are the boss but rather those who juggle all the schedules, tasks and chores in their minds. They are the source of all the information and the coordinator of family life. Usually it is Mums, sometimes it is Dads and sometimes it is shared. Continue reading
When there is a problem (or multiple problems) with our child, we have tried everything we know how to do and it is just not working out, it is easy to feel like we have failed in some way. It might be their behaviour, their sleep, picky eating or a hundred other things.
Feeling uncertain about what to do is a common part of parenting and it is always worth reminding ourselves of a couple of things. Continue reading
The love for our children is like no other. It is a special and unique feeling that we can only have for our kids. It is unconditional. They can scream, keep us awake, be sick on us and draw on the walls but we still love them.
The love we feel is amazing but it comes with a huge amount of responsibility.
We are in charge. In some ways we can feel more vulnerable than ever before. We have these little people who are totally reliant on everything we do. And at the same time we are so emotionally reliant on them being okay too. Continue reading
So lets talk about guilt, after all this site is called ‘The Guilt Free Guide’.
I have explored guilt from many angles but lets hit it head on here. Continue reading
Once we have children everything changes. We have the responsibility of another life which brings a whole heap of work. We live in a strange 24 hour world of demands, where we work harder than ever before but often find it challenging to say what we have actually done.
Did you feel like a mother when you were pregnant with your first child?
Technically speaking we are mothers as soon as we become pregnant for the first time. We are carrying a baby within us and we are responsible for that baby. Continue reading