Finding ourselves pregnant is a momentous occasion. It is a time when we realise that our lives are going to change radically but we can’t know exactly how, particularly with our first child. Even when we planned our pregnancy, it can still take us by surprise. It is exciting to know that we will have a baby. Knowing that we will meet our own child in less than nine months time can be both wonderful and surreal. We have a hope and an investment in the future was not there before. Continue reading
This is a time of year when many of us are made particularly aware of the continual process of letting go of our children. As they grow and develop we have to let them do more and more themselves. Whilst this is always happening there are key times when it becomes increasingly apparent. These are the moments when they reach milestones in their lives, when they do things they have never done before like starting preschool or school or moving up a year. Continue reading
When there is a problem (or multiple problems) with our child, we have tried everything we know how to do and it is just not working out, it is easy to feel like we have failed in some way. It might be their behaviour, their sleep, picky eating or a hundred other things.
Feeling uncertain about what to do is a common part of parenting and it is always worth reminding ourselves of a couple of things. Continue reading
Do you routinely blame yourself or feel guilty for things that happen in your life?
When there are challenges in life and there are many, particularly as a parent, we can acknowledge the difficulties, question ourselves and learn from our mistakes. This is an essential part of living.
There is however a big difference between this and blaming ourselves. Blaming ourselves, particularly when we do it often, works against us making our lives less enjoyable and when it is bad it stops us from valuing what we actually bring to the world. Continue reading
I have explored guilt from many angles but lets hit it head on here. Continue reading
We all do it. We watch other women with their offspring and compare ourselves. But why do we compare?
Comparing has its advantages. The thing we want from it is reassurance. When we see mothers operating in the same way we do, it is reassuring and helps us confirm our actions. When we see mothers doing things in a manor we would not, then it can reassure us too. It helps us feel okay about the choices we make by comparison. But that is not the whole story. Continue reading