I love straight forward abstract ideas. They have a great way of cutting through all the noise of life and condensing things to something clear and easy to remember.
There is one idea that came to me quite a while ago that I wish I had understood when I was a new mum with my first baby. It is this.
Motherhood is an art not a science.
Let me explain how it would have helped.Motherhood is and art, not a science. Click To Tweet
When we create something new, a piece of art work maybe or making an experimental curry (for those who are more drawn to the culinary arts), we understand that
1) We have to work with the paint (or ingredients) that we have
2) There will be some trial and error involved
3) We might need to change our plans
4) We will, at times, doubt ourselves because we have never done it before
and most importantly
5) That what we are creating is unique and so can’t totally be compared to anything else
Raising a child is also a creative process like painting a picture. It doesn’t follow a set pattern or any specific system. There are no formulas for getting a specific result like X+Y=Z.
X+Y with one child will equal Z but with another it will equal T and for another child X+Y is just not appropriate.
We work with the raw materials that we have, namely ourselves and our children. We doubt ourselves at times, which is all normal because much of it is trial and error and we frequently have to learn and adjust our plans.
We are all parenting our children in our own way which is based around a unique relationship. It is great to learn and get guidance from those around but essentially we are creating something new and original with each child, so there are no set answers.It is normal to doubt ourselves because there are no set answers or when it comes to parenting Click To Tweet
The more we accept that there is no formula and certainly no ‘right way‘ the easier it is for us. It allows us to embrace what we are as parents rather than what we think we ‘should’ be.
When we are freed up from attempting to meet everyone else’s expectations, we can start allowing parenting to be the creative process that it is. We can stop looking for ‘the’ answers and instead find ‘our’ own answers.
I would love to hear what you think of this statement ‘Motherhood is an art not a science’. Have there been any ideas or quotes that have helped you with being a mum? If you leave a comment below I will reply as soon as I can. Thanks for reading. Kirsten
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