How we feel about ourselves is a very big and worthwhile topic. I believe everyone has value to bring to this world. Through many years of working with people as a counsellor I have seen how taking time to develop our self-worth is incredibly beneficial.
For this reason over the next 7 weeks I will be writing a post on aspects of self-worth with activities you can use to explore and further develop your own sense of value.
Each post will comprise of some discussion and thoughts on the weeks topic followed by a few questions or an activity. These are designed to help you consider your own self-worth and take the next step to strengthening this all important aspect of your life.
Why Is It Good To Work On Valuing Ourselves?
The power of valuing ourselves and really knowing what we bring to the world should never be underestimated. When we truly acknowledge our strengths we approach life significantly differently to when we don’t.Think highly of yourself because the world takes you at your own estimate.” Unknown Click To Tweet
Any improvement in our self-worth impacts our lives in so many ways, more than I could ever list, but here come a few.
It becomes easier to speak up for ourselves.
It helps us to value ourselves and others for our similarities and differences.
We can utilise our strengths fully and go for what we want in life.
We can bounce back from difficulties and criticism
Even when we do have a good sense of self-worth, exploring how we can continue to develop it and really own the talents we have, only empowers us more.
The Importance Of Valuing Ourselves As Parents
Once we are parents valuing ourselves as much as we can is so important. Our children learn from us and through us. They don’t just do what we say but they learn very fundamentally from how we are. Leading by example is the strongest statement a parent can ever make.
Tips and tricks to get our children to think well of themselves will help. We can give them information that we might never have received in childhood. But the strongest demonstration for our children is how we live our life and how we feel about ourselves.Leading by example is the strongest statement a parent can ever make. Click To Tweet
It Surely Can’t Be Good To Think Highly Of Ourselves?
As a society there are some fears around this topic. There are fears that if we acknowledge those good things in ourselves then we could become arrogant.
There is a big difference between valuing ourselves and arrogance. Someone who is arrogant looks down on others from an inflated belief in themselves.
Valuing ourselves has nothing to do with comparisons. It is literally knowing who we are and valuing what we have to offer the world. We are all important. We are all worthwhile. We all have things to give to the world.We are all worthwhile. We all have things to give to the world Click To Tweet
Get Started On The Self-Worth Challenge
So for this week here are a few questions for you to ask yourself.
You may find it helpful to jot down your ideas so that you can look back on them over the coming weeks.
Most importantly really be aware of your first thoughts after each question. Don’t filter out anything for an answer you find more acceptable. There is no right and wrong (or good or bad) when exploring your inner world.
Do you have any fears about having more self-worth?
Many of us have received messages in our childhood (most not done purposefully) that indirectly teach us a fear of valuing ourselves. We may have heard statements like …
Who do you think you are?!
Don’t get too big for your boots!
We don’t need your ideas, thank you very much!
Do what your told!
All of these statements tell us in one way or another to not be ourselves, to follow the rules and not count our feelings. The more we heard these things the more we will have internalised anxieties around being who we are. Of course, each family sends their own set of messages in their own unique way.
What messages did you receive about valuing yourself, your thoughts, feelings and opinions?
It is worth exploring any ideas we have been given about self worth. Some may have been useful and some may have been limiting, like the statements above. Where we have received limiting messages, we need to address them with our adult perspective, challenging their validity. When we do this we stop inadvertently holding ourselves back.
Where in your life do you value yourself and where don’t you?
This is a question for you to identify your particular situation. It may be that you have a lot of confidence at home but rarely speak up for yourself at work. It may be that you never put yourself first or speak up for yourself. Some people present an outward confidence but don’t feel it within. If you are unsure then just move on. Within the next weeks more will be revealed as you go through each topic.
How would things be different if you valued yourself more?
If you can begin to imagine how things will be different for you that is wonderful because using our imagination starts engaging our mind with how we would like things to be. This is when real change begins. Again , if this is a challenge, move on to next week and allow this process to unfold. We will come back to these points later on.
The next topic on The Self-Worth Challenge: Your Feelings Count
If you are excited by the prospect of this challenge please tell your friends. It is a great thing to do and be able to share with those who care for us.
These journeys are often very personal. I would, of course, love to know any aspect of your experience with this challenge that you would like to share with me. I always respond to all comments.
So what is next?
If you liked this article then you may also like:
- You Are Unique – The Self-Worth Challenge
- Why It Is Great To See Other Parents Struggling
- What Do You Do? I am A Mother
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